Bullying
Counselling for the Bully and the Bullied
In an ideal world, everyone would be tolerant of others and living in perfect harmony. Unfortunately, the reality is very different. It’s a struggle to encourage people to treat each other equally, respecting each other’s similarities and celebrating the differences.
Those who are less tolerant and act out against others are known as bullies, and bullying is a very real problem for a lot of people around the world Bullying is defined as an action that attempts to undermine or harm somebody else based on a perceived weakness. It is an act that aims to separate those who are stronger or more influential from those who aren’t.
Therein lies the imbalance, and it is always unhealthy. There are three main characteristics of bullying, and they include the following:
β Aggressive
and abusiveβ involving negative actions towards another and is usually repeated over timeβ it is a perceived imbalance in strength and power
Types of Bullying Often times we see this relationship between the bully and the bullied in children, but it is actually seen in other places and is common in all walks of life. Here are three of the most prevalent.
Bullying at school
This is the most common form, and arguably the first type a person experiences. Whether it is as a child or even as a teen, there is an aggression that occurs, and it can scar the victim for life if unaddressed.
Bullying in the workplace
Even in a professional setting, bullying exists. There is a struggle of power, and those in position may use their stature to take advantage of those they perceive to be lower than them.
It can also occur as the result of a disagreement between two employees who occupy an equal position rank.
Cyberbullying
With the rise of social media, cyber-bullying is becoming one of the silent yet incredibly dangerous forms. Despite the lack of physical pain, the mental and emotional burden is even more taxing.
Cyber bullying is one of the fastest growing bullying types and has far reaching effects on its victims. Bullies are often nameless and can hide their identities from their victims which often give them more power.
Bullying is defined as an action that attempts to undermine or harm somebody else based on a perceived weakness. It is an act that aims to separate those who are stronger or more influential from those who aren’t.
Therein lies the imbalance, and it is always unhealthy.
There are three main characteristics of bullying, and they include the following:
β Aggressive
and abusive
β involving negative actions towards another and is usually repeated over time
β it is a perceived imbalance in strength and power
Types of Bullying
Often times we see this relationship between the bully and the bullied in children, but it is actually seen in other places and is common in all walks of life.
Here are three of the most prevalent.
Bullying at school
This is the most common form, and arguably the first type a person experiences. Whether it is as a child or even as a teen, there is an aggression that occurs, and it can scar the victim for life if unaddressed.
Bullying in the workplace
Even in a professional setting, bullying exists. There is a struggle of power, and those in position may use their stature to take advantage of those they perceive to be lower than them.
It can also occur as the result of a disagreement between two employees who occupy an equal position rank.
Cyberbullying
With the rise of social media, cyber-bullying is becoming one of the silent yet incredibly dangerous forms. Despite the lack of physical pain, the mental and emotional burden is even more taxing.
Cyber bullying is one of the fastest growing bullying types and has far reaching effects on its victims. Bullies are often nameless and can hide their identities from their victims which often give them more power.
Cyber bullying is one of the fastest growing bullying types and has far reaching effects on its victims. Bullies are often nameless and can hide their identities from their victims which often give them more power.
Its Ominous Effects
For victims of bullying, it can dramatically decrease their self-worth
and esteem, which can lead to further complications. It can hinder the development of social skills and relationships because of the lack of trust. In extreme cases, it can bring about anxiety, anger, shame, and isolation, and in extreme cases, suicide has been known to happen. Bullying can affect every aspect of a person’s life and that of their family.
Therapy for the Bullied
Persons who are bullied benefit greatly from a supportive and safe environment that addresses how they feel and can offer coping strategies. It is in this setting that they can talk about how bullying makes them feel, and begin the healing process.
A trained therapist can employ a non-judgmental, empathetic approach that shows the victim someone acknowledges the gravity of the situation. As such, group therapy is also helpful to show they are not alone in their plight while they develop assertiveness and healthy coping mechanisms. It can take a long time to recover from a bullying situation and it can have an impact on the person or the rest of their life.
Counselling for the Bully
The thing is, even the bullies themselves may be the unsuspecting “victims” of the circumstance. Not many people are born heinous. They may have developed such behavior after experiencing it themselves, and are turning that aggression and anger towards others. It is only when they recognise what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how it impacts their victims, will they be able to address their inner demons.
Cooks Hill Counselling have professional counsellors that are skilled in tackling such problems, helping both the bully and the bullied to develop better ways to cope. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us and start the healing process today.
Contact Details
Telephone: 0421 598 486
Email:
cookshill@optusnet.com.au
Address: 82 Womboin Rd, Lambton
ABN: 47 346 936 757
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